Deciding when to put a loved one in a nursing home

On Behalf of | Oct 20, 2018 | Nursing Home Abuse And Neglect

There is a lot of negative stigma behind putting a loved one in a nursing home. Some of it is well-earned since they are notoriously short-staffed and often do not give their staff the training they need. Other homes strive to provide quality care when family and friends simply can’t.

That stigma, however, can cause you to feel guilty when it you are caring for a loved one and considering putting them in a nursing home. There are times, though, when a nursing home is what is best for both you and your loved one.

Here are some tips for considering a nursing home for your loved one.

Start looking early

Some nursing homes have waiting lists to be able to get in, so if you find a facility that might be a good fit in the future, you might want to consider getting on the list.

You will also want to look early so that you can get familiar with all your options. There are a lot of different features and benefits that homes can offer depending on what kind of care you are looking for. This is a good time to think about any diagnoses that your loved one has and the most likely progression that will take place. Consider not only the care they will need now, but also in the future when those needs increase.

There will be guilt

Even if you weren’t one of those people who said, “I’ll never put my loved one in a nursing home,” there is still a certain amount of guilt everyone feels when it is time to reach out for help. You very likely intended to provide care perpetually, but the reality became much more than you could handle. The important step is realizing that it is ok to come to that conclusion and reach out for help.

While other cultures will give Americans a hard time for putting loved ones in a facility, the reality is that in some cases we cannot provide the kind of care they need. Whether it becomes more skilled medical care or we simply are not able to handle the emotional and physical toll of taking care of someone, for many, there comes a time when you need more help.